I used to wonder when I would feel like an actual adult. See, when I was in elementary school I went to cheer camp at the high school. God those high school cheerleaders were awesome, they seriously had their life together and were soooo grown up, or so it seemed to an eight year old. When I was in high school, I did not feel like I had my life together and I did NOT feel grown up. Even while I was driving around in my silver Chevy Venture, I was not grown up. That’s when we looked at the college kids, naturally. Wow, they knew where they were headed and so would I, right? Um, hell no. I still don’t know where I am headed! But isn’t that just the beauty of life, so they say.
I’m married. I have a car loan and a mortgage. My husband has a salary. But sometimes I look in the mirror and think, I am no more grown up then I was at 16.
So when will I feel like a grown up!? When will I feel like I am someone that those young girls can look up to? When will I feel accomplished enough to say, I’m an adult? Will it be when I have a kid of my own to look after; my sister-in-law and mother of 3 thinks that didn’t even make her feel grown up.
But then, on Easter, we received three phone calls before we headed over to Ben’s grandparents house. We were asked to pick up rolls and ice on our way over. We had never been asked before because, even though we were married, we still feel under Ben’s parent’s family when it came to the WHOLE family (Ben’s side is huge and we are all super close, which is awesome and you should totally be jelly). But suddenly, we were asked to just pick stuff up on the way over. LIKE. ADULTS. whattttt?!
This experience, if you can even call it that, got me thinking…when did this happen and what signs pointed to it?
ONE: You Start Bringing Things to Family Gatherings
“Pick up some ice on your way over”
“Do you guys want to bring a dessert?”
As I explained just above, this is a huge sign! As just another kid, you simply fall under the umbrella of your parents and whatever they were asked to bring. As an adult, you’re off on your own branch and now it’s time you start pulling your weight when if comes to family gatherings or block parties.
TWO: You Get “Adult” Gifts
In Ben’s family, we don’t really do the gift thing because there are just TOO many. Instead, adults get a dessert from everyone else and the teens get a movie gift card that all the adults pitched in for. This year we got a ton of snacks, just like all the other “real” adults. When you are suddenly grouped with your aunts/uncles/parents/older siblings when it comes to gifting, you know you’ve reached the next milestone in your life.
THREE: Kids Stop Asking You to Play
This actually hasn’t happened to me yet because I’m a *cool* aunt. But Ben, the old man, is no longer asked to jump on the trampoline or play ghost in the graveyard with the kiddies in the family. Funny story actually, our nephew told me not to become a mom because then I will get boring HA! Love it 🙂
So when you’re out and there are a bunch of kids running around, whether it be family or friends kids, and they’re suddenly NOT asking you to come play with them…welcome to adulthood.
FOUR: You’re Suddenly Much Less Interested In the Bar Scene
This does not totally go away, to be fair, but suddenly you’re not as much interested in late drunken nights. Instead you prefer intimate gatherings, BBQs in the backyard with your closest friends (slash other couples…). And when you DO plan to hit up a local bar because, hello you’re still young and want to prove to yourself you can do it, getting ready doesn’t have the fun factor it did back in college. Face it, you would rather lay on the couch with your man, a sleeve of Oreo’s, your fav blanket, and the ever faithful Netflix.
FIVE: Fifty Bucks is No Longer A Lot
Remember the days when fifty bucks felt like you had hit the jackpot? The days when a twenty could hold you over for weeks on end? Yeah…me neither.
As an adult, you are seeing larger amounts of money moving in and out of your bank account on a weekly, if not daily basis. You have bills to pay, a car to fill, for some a man to feed, and (finally) a steady pay check. Most of this is good, overall, but its still fun to look back on the days when your semi regular, 3 hour babysitting gig held you afloat for more than two days.
What are some warning signs that made you realize you had finally reached adulthood??